Originally Posted By: Ancaire
It goes around and around and around. H is unbelievable!

He showed up about 30 minutes ago. Politely knocked on my door and said He had D questions to ask me. Once again, I'm sitting here crying. He let it slip that he'd borrowed money from FIL to divorce me. For some reason, that slayed me. I am going down a cheeseless tunnel, I know. But it kills me to think of all the vile lies he's been telling about me being told to someone I really love. I'm so hurt by that, I'm having trouble catching my breath. I shouldn't care what his family thinks, but I do. They've been my family, too, for 20 years. But after the news story and whatever H has told them, I've been well and truly abandoned by his side.


(((((Ancaire)))))) I know how you feel. Not one member of my H's family have so much as called to ask how I am since he left and we have been together 19 years.

Originally Posted By: Ancaire
I guess I'll wait and hear from L. I don't know what else to do. I need to stop crying, that's for sure. Maybe I'll give myself 5 more minutes to mourn and then move it along?
I agree, that's the best you can do for now until you hear back from your L.

Originally Posted By: Ancaire
I've been encouraging everyone else all morning...and I'm dying inside. I want so badly to send him a message, letting him know he's so thoroughly destroyed my life - he'd better be freaking deliriously happy. I won't. It's a really nice fantasy.[quote]

That's the ironic thing about it isn't it Ancaire. I shouldn't think he is deliriously happy. No amount of happiness can compensate for the pain he is causing you. I feel the same about my H. That he can stand to do this to his two young children and he doesn't even look deliriously happy, in fact he looks the opposite, makes my blood boil.

[quote=Ancaire]It's been 10 minutes, and I'm still a puddle. Taking deep breaths.


Sometimes I think we just have to cry it out. I have done so much crying since Christmas I'd have thought I'd run out of tears by now.


M-43 H-42
S-11 D-7
T-19 yrs
M-15 yrs
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