Yesterday he took D to school and collected her so he was at our home when I returned from work. I got home just 5 minutes after S got home from school and in these 5 minutes H had already had his chat with him that he'd promised he would do during their crying session on the phone on Monday night. All he said to S was, "I'm not coming home because it's complicated and I don't want to discuss it with you." Wow.
He was cheery with me and said he thought he might get us all pizza so that S can't say he doesn't have tea with us! (S said this on Monday when H left). I managed to DB by not saying what I was actually thinking (snappy retort) and just smiled sweetly and said that would be nice. Immediately after tea he left to go home to bed before his night shift. I refused his offer to take D to school again this morning - it just upsets me having him here in a morning when I'm getting ready for work.
Today he text at teatime and I didn't reply because his text said he was trying to get more sleep before coming round and as I hadn't noticed the text for over an hour after him sending it I thought I'd better not reply in case I woke him up! He eventually turned up when it was time for the kids to get ready for bed so they ended up staying up late. He seemed upset that I hadn't replied to his text!?!? Asking me why I hadn't replied! So it's OK for him to ignore my texts but not the other way round! I thought this was interesting! Then he proceeded to tell me how he'd had to break into our shed the day before to get something because he couldn't find the key. He claims to have looked for the key for over an hour. I went to where we keep the keys and lo and behold, in approx 0.25 seconds I'd found the key!! I was fuming and did show it a little. H shouted at me that he had looked and someone must have put them back since yesterday. No. None of us have been near the shed. I ignored him shouting at me and took myself out of the way for 20 minutes until I'd calmed down. As soon as I told the kids it was time to get ready for bed he just left. Didn't stay to put them to bed or anything.
I'd appreciate thoughts on these interactions and what I should do. I'm confused about goals and which parts of DB to actually be doing because he's left but comes round so much and act like a family for an hour or so and then 'snap' he leaves.
