Hi Is, once H filed I just decided to do whatever was needed to resolve things in a timely way. So I have responded promptly to any queries and got my stuff together within deadlines. In fact, the delays have been more from H's end as our finances aren't straightforward and much of that is in his name.

Sometimes people recommend dragging out - it's up to you of course. But I think to have it drag on is pretty brutal. Equally, I wouldn't rush it through. Just let it run it's course.

Yes, more people go for UB than adultery. Often people just don't want to wait for the 2 year 'no fault' deadline. Also, adultery has to have proof - whereas UB doesn't. I think it has become a convenient 'catch all' reason. I don't really agree with that, but it is what it is I guess.

Good luck with whatever you decide my friend x

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus