BREATHE! I am very sorry you've had another incident w/your h.
Do not send him an email, text or even think of calling him. All you will be doing is adding fuel to his anger fire right now. You have to stop thinking that he cares and you can't guilt him into doing anything. He is an angry and desperate man who wants out of a marriage and right now, he doesn't care about anyone but himself.
I have also responded to your posting over on the MLC Forum.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.