Separated- Wife in Emotional Affair

[Chris82]

Thanks Trumpet,

I really align with what you are saying. It IS hard to not be her safety net. As an oblivious husband that actually thought things were improving once the fighting began to stop I was always used to just being there. But you are correct. She fired me. I just want to avoid any talk of the A if at all possible. I certainly don't want to ask her "So have you ended it with OM?".

I'm clearly interested and excited to see what all I can accomplish with the newly found freedom. Even though this NC today and most of yesterday is a drop in the bucket, I've heard from 2 of my closest friends telling me shes texted them asking if they've heard from me today.

I know that without her taking the time to fix her own troubles on her own that we wouldn't have a fighting chance as a couple. And you're right.. I do feel like a jerk at times when she texts me and I don't respond. I think you are like me in that you just have a soft spot for your spouse even if they are openly pooping on us. But I will stay strong and give this all the time it needs to unfold.