I agree that you have ample reason to believe that the text was not as innocent as she suggests. At this point there is no need to harp on it. You know the truth, no need in trying to get her to own up to it. Keep the logic of it all to yourself. Sharing it with her will only make things worse.
It does seem that NC is the way to go. This will be challenging with a kid in play. Just do your best to keep it about the children when you do communicate with her. It is good that you can see the qualities that you have. Sometimes people get down on themselves and that can get to an unhealthy point.
Just remember that while you are in NC it is a time that you can work on yourself to make yourself an even better person. Don't waste that opportunity.
Me: 30's W: 30's M: 12yrs EA: Started 3/2015 MC Started: 4/2015 She moved out and served 6/2015 PA: Confirmed 10/5/2015 2 young kids
"If you do not stand for something you will fall for anything."
