dday,
you hit the nail right on the head. "it's her journey to make and she doesn't want me holding her hand through it now."

Not only do our WXW not want us but they have chosen other men over us. If they are ever going to be able to R they must hit rock bottom. They will not hit rock bottom if they have us to lean into, rely on or count on us. They must do it with out us or they will never appreciate us. Usually change only occurs when there is a significant amount of pain. Our WXW must experience the pain of their choices.

This is all a reminder for me too.

Keep on Dbing because it's really about becoming a better you regardless of what she does.

Me 40
WW 41
D 4
S 12
S 14
BD 6.16.2015
W stopped wearing ring 9.4.15
W Filed Divorce 9.14.15
My ring off 11.15.15
D finalized 12.18.15
WXW (wayward X wife) moved out 1.28.16 got her own place