I know you are busy; just respect you so much from everything you have posted and I know not every WW is the same but you give it to us straight and have experience in these situations that cannot go unnoticed.
So, when do you know when your WW is really coming around without her coming out and saying it directly? What were the first signs for you contemplating that you wanted to stay in the marriage or make you think this could work (knowing that your husband wouldn't hold it against you forever and that you had to face your truth and snap out of fantasy land)?
In those talks I keep referencing, she has acknowledged her faults and even slipped up on reading about guys with mother issues (me) and how it affects them later on in life. She's just been inconsistent...moments of vulnerabilities over the past month where she has asked to do things with us and then either backed out or just never brought it up again (as I didn't either because I don't want to pressure her).
Where is the line between keeping the road home paved smooth and being nice and amicable while I'm certain she is still talking to that guy who is just a "friend" (her story)? What would you recommend doing? Not allowing her to stay and play games as a family? I have the simple things down like no R talk, no talking about other man, etc. Just a lot harder to do when we have kids and I want the kids to see a respectful relationship between their mother and I; especially when I know I have done more than my fair share of dirt to help push her to this place of insanity. I had issues I needed to address within myself and God chose to hit me where he knew it would hurt and force me to look myself in the mirror.
Maybe none of these signs matter because its about me changing and my focus is on me. Well I'm there and I wont ever stop growing as this experience has been LIFE ALTERING for me. Just hope she comes along for the ride.
