Sorry to hear about the recent events and that your wife may be on to another man. My suggestion is that you disassociate yourself from anything having to do with her affairs. If you want your wife back the affair has to stop. However, this can be a catch 22. You attempting to stop affairs can lead to pressure. This will drive her away.
I know it hurts. Your wife being with another man is a huge betrayal. In time though you will realize this has happened and if you and your wife are going to be together you are going to have to accept what happened. There will come a time to discuss your hurt feelings. Right now is not that time. WW does not want to hear that right now. Discuss your feelings with a friend or IC. Not your wife. She needs to see you happy, looking good, smelling good, and enjoying life...a life that she does not want to give up.
This does not mean let her run all over you. You still need boundaries. Don't come across as the affair is okay. You have already sent the message it is not so I think you are okay there.
Your doing good. Just remember any interaction you have with WW needs to show you in the best light possible.
Me: 30's W: 30's M: 12yrs EA: Started 3/2015 MC Started: 4/2015 She moved out and served 6/2015 PA: Confirmed 10/5/2015 2 young kids
"If you do not stand for something you will fall for anything."
