Letting go, finally

[JGuy]

Given everything you said up here, why are you bothering to go to marriage counseling?

That's exactly what I'm wondering. We booked the appointment a week ago when we were in a different place. I haven't felt compelled to cancel the appointment, so I didn't. In previous MC sessions, the counselor pointed out that it would be valuable to work on improving our communication regardless of whether or not we save the M. Since we are going to be co-parents one way or another, it will be valuable to work on improving our communication. I agree with this, so I am thinking of going with that intention today. Also, it may be valuable to use the session to clarify our intentions moving forward. If this is really a trial separation, then what does that mean exactly? Maybe the MC can help us to work through establishing details about what exactly this means.

If youre already done with trying to save the marriage, why does it matter how you respond to your wife when she temp checks you?

Because I want to be careful not to burn any bridges, as you and others have suggested. Also, let me be clear that I am not 100% decided that I want the M to end. I am ambivalent which means that I have serious doubts of my own now about what I want. That isn't certainty, though.