I'm glad you don't feel bad about this interaction, Ancaire! I think it was probably long overdue.

Also very happy that you can work towards better health. I struggled with heart skipping and racing for years - turned out to be food intolerances combined with untreated thyroid problems. Stress of course made it worse. Be very gentle with yourself when you start working out.

It's really amazing how they can re-write history. I know my memory isn't perfect, but H systematically has erased the good I did and made up events that make me look bad. He insisted a few days ago that he had made a bunch of loan payments for me - it was completely false, but it took quite a bit to convince him, and I'm still not sure he actually believes me. I'd be curious to know the mechanisms behind it - I understand the motivation, but actually fabricating events?


M 16 yrs, WH62, P54
3 adult blended kids
EA 11/13, BD1 6/14
PA fall 14, BD2 2/15
Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15
Separated 4/16
WH moved OW in 5/16
Divorced 6/15/17