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[Mona52]

I agree that if there is an A, and if that horrid woman is the OW, it cant last long. It is something shiny, new, and different for your H. But true colors have a way of coming through.

You have nothing to feel embarrassed about, you are not the one acting poorly. Real friends will know this. Who cares what anyone other than real friends think?

Trust me when I say I know how painful an OW is. It sounds like it is not a dealbreaker in your case. If that is true, then there are things you can do to make the A less of a priority in your mind. The first thing I would do is cut away every single way you can snoop. Separate yourself from joint accounts to protect yourself, but also so you cant see what he is doing. Remove him from your Facebook.

Any kind of snooping, unless it is to protect yourself financially, will only hurt you. I know you are dying to know what he is doing, and what he is thinking. If you only knew, you could come up with a solution to fix the problem.

This simply will not work in this sit. You cant say or do a thing to fix him. He HAS to be the one to fix himself. You can protect yourself by pulling back and focusing on yourself. Become the woman only a fool would leave.

Step one, separate your accounts, today! Step 2, post some goals for yourself