Just keep POSTING and one other bit of advice from Wonka that I totally agree with.
Originally Posted By: Wonka
Get DR/DB book. Keep this to yourself. DO NOT share this book or this site at all with your spouse. It is your playbook and not to be shared with the "opposing" team.
It is important to clear the search/browsing history from your computer on a daily basis to prevent the possibility for your WAS to stumble on the DB site and discover your posts here on DB. Erasing the search history will protect your posts and you as well.
We have seen too many Marriages blow up in pieces after the WAS discovers the DB site or DR book. Why is that? It is because the WAS thinks, erroneously I might add, that you are "manipulating" them back into the M.
Keep the DR book and DB site very close to your vest.
Thanks Cadet. Bought the book 16 months ago...read it in 2 days...thought I was over this with the getting back together for 6 months, but it was clear that I took her back too fast as most do because of our desire to have them anyway we could get them. Now I find myself back here again...
Would love to hear Sandi's take on my situation if anyone could ping her, lol.
Need to know if these are signs that she feels she is losing things...i.e. kids not wanting to go with her, self reflection on her part, her feelings of stress, anxiety, depression that are adding up on her.
I'm still in the No initiating contact mode so I believe that will be the path I continue on as it gets easier each day.
Just [censored] that it took all of this to really learn to appreciate what you have and understand that the blessings you are wishing for were right in front of you the whole time.
I really really really dislike the situation I'm in. Do I deserve it? Yes and no. No one deserves this type of pain but maybe I had to feel it to understand her pain.
Either way, I'm at that place of peace where I know I'm made serious growth for myself and I am the better choice and I will be an incredible husband in the future, whether or not its with her, I do not know. I'd hate for her not to reap the benefits of this positive change, but that's not for me to decide.
