I dunno what is the hardest. I'm so happy for you Trumpet - it is really encouraging and amazing how far you've come and how open you are about it. I know it is not easy. Last night was another bomb, in a new way. H caught our just-turned 14D on the computer in her room (which had been internet-disabled) online, ALL NIGHT. No wonder she had been falling asleep so much. Went through some of the history, at 5AM, and found online chat rooms, cosplay "fan fiction" sites where she was writing some rather inappropriate stuff. Of course H and I talked a little bit about it. He was actually good about it - asked me my thoughts. I shared them (stupidly) and it got turned to us. Partially my fault because *of course* I see a connection, similarity and the pathology at work here. And frankly, I've been a teen girl and struggled with nearly the exact same scenarios (which almost seemed to shock him), but he reacted by saying I was being controlling (by sharing my past and my concerns??). I'm sure I did some stuff wrong. UGH.
Me: 42, H: 38 Married: 12 years (second M for me) 14D, 9D 2015 EA (PA??), porn addict, *pastor/counselor* MLC
At a counselor, he said he wanted the marriage but not to work on himself w/a IC. Piecing?
