It's good you think that about the text.

It sounds like you're angry about it. That's logical.

Your W isn't logical. She might have been sloppy with the texts. Seems like WW are sloppy - the fog of the affair makes the brain short out. My wife almost seemed to leave crumbs for me to find, so that I'd discover it. Then it went underground. Then she got upset I found her passwords, and found it was still going.

She was more upset that I found out than pointing out she's having an affair. Crazy stuff.

Most affairs burn out. 3 months. 6 months. A year.

Please find someone you trust you can talk to. Easing your pain is needed. Your primary outlet is now gone - that is tough to accept.

Dropping the rope is a process, take it from someone who thought I dropped the rope weeks ago. The NC is probably more like putting a lot of slack in the rope. And that's a great way to make sure to save the marriage.

When someone on here truly drops the rope, for the last time, it seems like the talk on their posts isn't about the WW/WAS, it's about what's going on in their life, and the exciting things they see in the present and future.

Keep working. Your daughter deserves her daddy. A daddy that is strong and wise. A daddy that worked to become the best Nate there ever has been, for her. Make her proud.


M46, EXWW46
M15 T17
D20, S19, D13
M - Addiction since 1998
W EA/PA #1 2013/2014
W EA #2 June 2015...
BD 1 Big D talk 9/15
BD 2 - EA/PA disc 10/30/15
Served D 1/22/16
Divorced 5/25/16 (yes, that fast!)