2016 Baby! We're going to be ok.

[Mona52]

I am going to start with the whole DB approach because I feel I should...

Dont let them bait you... rise above their craziness...

Ok, got that out of the way.

Now, I am so envious right now. Everything you said to him are identical words to what I want to say to my H! Oh why Oh why cant I go ape sh!t on jerkface like that. grrrrrrrr

Today you are probably feeling GUILTY because you might have hurt HIS feelings. DONT! YOu are smart enough that you know you have to find a way to NOT scream at him. You read the MLC boards and you know that they are running from anyone who sounds like they are mothering them. When you point out his millions of flaws, you are acting like his mother. You know this will make him run further away. But, just this once, dont let yourself feel guilt. We all wish we could do what you have done. Chalk it up as one bad night and continue your DBing.

In the last few days, my H really tried to financially throw me under his bus. I am also stuck holding a few bags that are kinda heavy for me. I want so bad to just go off on him and tell him how I feel about him, exactly like you did. Instead, the last text I sent the jerk was a thank you for fixing a light. His reply was worth it ( Yw ) That stupid freaking smiley face feels stupidly better than the relief I would feel if I let him know what a piece of cr@p I think he is.

Maybe a goal now of having 3 positive interactions with your H without any fight might help move things in a slightly more positive direction?