Di, I'm having trouble figuring out what you want. You like having your own place. You're enjoying spending time with H, but happy enough that you're not together right now. Are you absolutely certain you don't want him just as a boyfriend?
How do you see things changing if you wind up moving back in together? Better or worse?
I am so very happy your kitty is doing well. I love mine so very much, and would be crushed for anything to ever happen to him.
