Thanks TX, that helped me too. This may also help from old threads by Reality Trip:

Start practicing your mantras.....

I remain calm in the face of fear.
I remain calm in the face of pain.
I remain calm in the face of anger.
I remain calm in the face of surprises.
I remain calm in the face of anything.
I remain calm.

I breathe into the fear.
I breathe into the pain.
I breathe into the anger.
I breathe into the surprises.
I breathe into anything.
I breathe.

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus