Separated- Wife in Emotional Affair

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Not necessarily contradictory. In your case you will have contact with the W concerning your children. Just no need to prolong a conversation with chit chat or have discussions about things other than the kids. No "how was your day" type stuff. Just keep it to things about your kids. And you don't need to answer the calls or texts right away. You can let the call go to voicemail then you can determine if it's something you NEED to reply to, otherwise you are free to just ignore it. Same with texts. Unless it is something that must be responded to right away, like things about your kids, just let it go. Seriously, if she is just asking what you are doing for dinner what's the point replying. Remember, you are now a busy guy with all your new GAL activities (whether true or not). You don't have time for chit chat with someone that disrespects you and your family.

Same goes for when you NEED to contact the W about the kids. There aren't many things you need to initiate contact with her about. The kids for coordinating their care. Maybe a few other things that you absolutely MUST contact her about. None of the 'good luck on the interview", etc. stuff.

If you are on a phone call and need to hang up just say you have to go because some friends are waiting. Don't elaborate. Just leave the impression you are busy and having fun.

She has to feel the loss of you and that you will not be available for her plan B if the OM doesn't work out. Don't let her think for a second you are going to be around for plan B.