Separated- Wife in Emotional Affair

[Chris82]

I understand what many of you are saying in terms of "going dark' on my WAW. But I am a little confused by its contradiction to some of Sandi's rules. These rules state that I should not initiate contact and pull back. But, at the same time they tell me

"No frequent phone calls to spouse.......let him/her be the one to call you. Then don't try to hang on to your spouse through conversation.....instead, you say good-bye first."

So is this saying to entertain a phone call if my wife calls to talk to me? From what I take from the rules its to GAL and let my W initiate contact. but keep it short, happy, and sweet.

Can someone clarify?