I am very happy that you returned and provided an update. It's been a long time since you last posted, but I'm very happy that you and your h survived his MLC and your "new and improved" marriage is going strong.
I couldn't agree more w/the tidbits that Eric pulled from your posting.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.