So..towards peace and happiness..

[Sotto]

Hi Bttrfly, and the same to you Sweetheart. I hope it is a year with many joys and blessings. Do you export your black bean soup at all?? My mouth was watering Xx

Well, I'm doing fine. Just replied to a draft letter to H's L from my L. We're seeking to confirm property values and final asset figures and she has asked him to propose settlement arrangements (he already did this informally to me and she wants it to go via her, which is fair enough.)

No news from H since he replied to my HNY text. Forgot to say that when I saw SS he told me he missed my cooking - he used to moan about my healthy meals at the time - so it was nice to hear. He and I have exchanged a few texts this week & I'll see him next month I think.

As for me, I joined a gym this week. I work for a fitness company and we just moved to a new site which has a fitness centre. We get a great membership deal, so it was a no-brainer. I'm now looking for some flattering jogging bottoms & have my gym induction next week. My new singing teacher got back to me, and we're working on an initial meet up. I also ordered codependent no more. It's been on my reading list for a while and so now is the time. I also found a company that does short walking breaks, and emailed them this week. Me and a friend are going on a short yoga break this spring and a walking break later in the year would be perfect.

Yes, WRT to H, I do feel more and more accepting as time goes on. I can see that we are a long ways off any sort of healthy R. And the door seems closed from his end. I can also see that his setup with OW (who is a bit of a train wreck) may well crumble at some point, and then who knows. But in truth, I've accepted that things will likely go all the way to D with us. I'm glad not to have had to choose that - but I also feel a bit selfish that it is 'all on him' as I know this may cause pain in the longer term for him. Peace for me may come to equal pain for him if our sitch takes the 'normal' MLC trajectory.

I've also been reading Reality Trip's threads as another poster recommended these. Hers is a same sex R, and so different circs, but I'm learning a lot from her approach and the advice of wise others on her threads.

Very best wishes to you all xxx