First time posting. Waw and trying to repair

[Tyler12]

Went out to volleyball tonight alone. I mentioned I was going yesterday and she was welcome to come. When it was time to go she said no which didn't surprise me and I was going anyway. It was fun. It will get better going out. Right now it felt a little lonely. Like something was missing. I am wondering what helps you guys make the transition to DBing for yourself instead of, like I feel now, to get the WS back. I keep telling myself it's for me and my happiness but right now it still feels like I am doing this to win her back.
That said there are times already where it feels like she is pursuing. Hovering waiting for me to ask how her day was or what's going on. And I don't. I am employing all I have read and learned here to detach. She is like a yo-yo where she is right there. Then she will go quiet and go do what she always does. Sit on her phone.
Today was a hard day to follow sandi's rules tho as I could tell she had a rough day and was tired, aggravated at the children, i got home earlier than here and she had meat out. I was hungry so I started making supper because I wanted to eat and I know my boys are always hungry after day care. And she was mad at me saying why do I bother planning supper! Haha. I said really? I got home first and started supper ( also a 180) and your mad at me? Normally I would go play with the boys to give her some down time on days like this but I was busy with supper and still attended the boys when they wanted my attention. So I got through it. It was rough tho. Here's to each day getting easier and better for my children and me!