Thanks for your response (and for starting this thread). As usual, my post was direct and probably came out too harsh. I'm worried that you think so much about your ex at your own expense. At the same time, I understand that it's not easy to let go (I haven't 100%) and that you accomplish much that impresses me, like starting the business. And you have a dating profile. On this topic, I really hope you'll soon find the time to read Models. It's not a pick up artist kind of book, it's more about being centered and honest. I think a lot of us LBH need to hear it before we approach women again.
Your emotions towards your ex and your perspective on her return are completely normal. I don't think we "know" that WAS always approach the LBS. It's not clear all of them have remorse, even if they must all have their doubts, and those that have remorse might process it far from the WAS. Also, it may take a lot of time and your emotions will be where they will be. It's unlikely you can prepare for it now.
I agree with 2ltl2lt that confrontation is not productive or even satisfying. What you convey to OM is that you care and that he's had the upper hand on you. You're powerless over him and even rearranging his face gives him to good role. I've ignored OM completely. If anything, my hope is that he'll be wondering why I care so little about him and her? Is there something I know that he should know? While you dream of rearranging his face, my scenario is that if I were to meet him I would give him a side smile, implying that he got the raw end of the deal... Not going to happen, but it just goes to show how I think of "confronting" OM.
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"You can't start a fire sitting around, crying over a broken heart" - Bruce Springsteen.
