The reason I said to not move out is because some guys on here have been accused of abandoning the family and it was used against them during divorce proceedings. This is something you should talk to a lawyer about so you don't fall into that hole.
Initiating the text about good luck at the interview was pursuing. This lets her know you are still her plan B and she can continue to cake-eat. Limit contact to just about coordinating with the kids.
My understanding is an inheritance is not considered something to be divided. If it is your inheritance, then you should ask for it in full. It is not hers in any context.
Me:49 W:45 M:19 T:22 EA confirmed and ended 8/2014 S:19,17 D:9,5