Bob, on my thread I talked about the 'one year rule'. That you don't under any circumstanced date for one year after the D is FINALIZED. Not when you separate. Not when you stop having sex. Not when you move into a different bedroom. But from when the divorce is final.
Frankly your neediness is very destructive. You haven't moved on. You simply don't like the way you feel. You feel bad. At first this drove you to think "I need WAW back so I don't feel this way". Then it was plain that wouldn't happen, so now you're like, "great, whatever, now I need someone else so I don't feel this way".
The fact that you're "over" WAW doesn't mean you're emotionally healed, it just means that the target of your desperate neediness has shifted from her to someone else. If you started dating now you would be desperately searching for a new relationship to save you from the pain you're in. The problem is that in 12-24 months when you aren't in pain anymore you'll look at the person you're with wonder why, because right now you've got pain goggles (like beer goggles) that make anyone look like a perfect ten. And in the process you'll burn bridges with WAW, stunt your own healing and cause your pain to last much longer, hurt someone else that doesn't understand they are being USED as a medication, and worst of all you may end up in a sticky relationship for a long time that's worse than what you just came from. But you go right ahead.
Bottom line, you have brought this up so many times I don't think you'll be strong enough to follow this rule. Still, I will tell you this like giving a truth dart to a WAS. So I will close by saying this: You allowing yourself to be driven by short term desires is no different than your wife walking, and frankly BOTH attitudes are equally disdainful and are the root of why relationships are failing these days. Suck it up, take it on the chin, and act with character.
Last edited by Zues126; 01/06/1603:25 AM.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
