I've seen homewrecker pages. I'm a member of one on Facebook. It's simply called, She's a Homewrecker, and has tons of cute memes. I'm not allowed to use it. The kids say I'm being immature. Oh, well. I can't share posts from it, but nothing can stop me from stopping by and laughing at the funny posts on their page!
I found it! It feels sort of empowering, doesn't it?
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11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
Why isn't there some sort of sunshine spray that would quickly dissipate the affair fog? Does anyone else (or does everyone else) have fantasies of all sorts of mayhem coming upon the OP? Over on my Rollercoaster thread tonight I wrote about screaming every vile word I could think of to describe the OW. While in my car.Driving. Felt great. Then I thought of how great it would feel to push her into the path of an oncoming train like that scene in House of Cards. Or peel off her face like a cadaver dissection. But before any of you start to worry about me, the only thing I'm actually fantasizing about is that carefully placed oopsie moment when you trip and your arm flings hot coffee in her face. Or pulling her hair. Then my twisted mind went to... wouldn't it be great if there was a website where you could just post pictures of all the homewreckers out there? I'll bet there is. Anyone else have any good revenge fantasies? Will I be censored off this page?
I think we all have those thoughts. In my case I was "lucky". The OM's betrayed wife was awesome! She destroyed her cheating hubby's life and a good bit of my cheating wife's life as well. Case in point, she blanketed the parking lot of my wife's company with fliers about my wife and what she had done. Had my wife's LinkedIn picture on the flier as well as a security camera screenshot of my wife and her hubby in their house in a very compromising position.
My wife's career has never recovered. The OM fled the state and still lives with his elderly mother almost 3 years post-BD.
Although it was the worst period of my life I do take some comfort that karmic justice fell on their heads like a ton of bricks. There were serious repercussions for their disgusting behavior. Did that happen by accident? No. A person who was betrayed made sure it happen. I hope that explains why I lean the other way on exposure. I'm for it. I've seen it crush two people behaving badly and make them both really do some soul searching.
Jpeg - we've both been kind of floundering with what to do with our lame-ass H's...I found this gem on the MLC threads this morning, and I'm sharing with everyone I think it may help. It really helped me redefine where I want to be going and how I'm going to get there. I hope it helps you, too!
Originally Posted By: ericmsant2
Consider the DB basic principals....
1) Healthy boundaries. 2) Better communication 3) GAL 4) "act as if" 5) Change how you look at things 6) Keep a positive outlook 7) Personal growth 8) Learning more about you so that you can be all that you can be. 9) Learning to avoid "cheese less tunnels" 10) Love and respect
These principals can be used in all facets of ones life. When used properly....they truly can change you from the INSIDE OUT.
GB - I have been no contact It has been VERY hard. I want to explain - but I know he won't hear it- he will twist it - no matter what I say. Thank you for your words. I can see that it is OW is his ear telling him what he should do and demanding that he move the D process along faster. (he has still never mention D to me ) It is beyond frustrating that he is actually making others feel sorry for him because I "took the kids away" at Christmas - NONE of them wanted to see him. He will never tell that part of the story though
Tx - wow I wish someone would do that for me. If I did that I know there would never be any chance of R. Just as your W's OM probably never forgave his ex Or maybe she just didn't want him back? But I would think because it wasn't you that left the door open for your wife. Although my H would probably still blame me because I was the one who had the suspicions
Tx - wow I wish someone would do that for me. If I did that I know there would never be any chance of R. Just as your W's OM probably never forgave his ex Or maybe she just didn't want him back? But I would think because it wasn't you that left the door open for your wife. Although my H would probably still blame me because I was the one who had the suspicions
At first she did want him back. He had fled to his mother's house out of state but they were talking by phone. Then she did more digging and found out he had cheated on her off and on throughout their entire relationship. Even before they were married. He was an opportunist cheater. Every time an opportunity came along, he went for it. Still, she got his career ended and he still wanted her back. He told her that he saw how hard she was fighting for their marriage and realized how much she loved him. There is a saying that "you can't nice them back" and that saying exists for a reason.
