Separated- Wife in Emotional Affair

[Chris82]

I agree and plan to do all those things. Just a few issues..

1.) I already have moved out of the marital house. I basically did it to keep the peace and not fight in front of my children. I sign a temporary 7 month lease and have all my own bills (cell, utilities, cable, etc) but there is still a small amount of inheritance money in a joint account that only her name was on. I feel kind of like a fool because I was so trusting of her in this marriage that I let her handle all the finances and didn't even pay money any mind.. I understand my mistake now that we are separated.

2.) Today, for example, I didn't contact her at all. She had a big interview for a job and I sent her 1 text saying "I hope all goes well today. Have a good day", She responded "it's at 1.. and Thanks"..end of contact for the day. Around 4 pm when I was driving to get my kids from school she initiated contact via text with me telling me "I survived the interviews! Yay I as so scared!" to which I simple responded "Good job, I know how nervous you get and I'm sure you were terrified, happy for you! See you around 8 when you get the boys"..end of contact.. then about 15 mins ago she called me.. asking me if she was coming here to get them or if I wanted her to meet me at the gym to get them and that "she just wanted to do whatever was most convenient for me.".. I told her to just text me when she got here and I would bring them down to her.

This type of attitude is confusing to me but I will stay strong in going dark. I am just wondering how effective it can be when she is constantly contacting me. It's as if she wants to continue her EA and have me as a friend too.. Something that just isnt possible for me.. I try to remain civil for the kids sake, but I feel like she is getting the wrong impression from me.

I have my boys Tuesday and Thursday afternoon until 8pm and every other full weekend Friday night to Sunday night. I've found that things are much more effective on the long stretched of Friday-Tuesday that I don't have them and long spans of NC are present. I guess I should be keeping contact as short and as sweet as possible? I want MAX effect!

Thanks