Separated- Wife in Emotional Affair

[Chris82]

Thank you,

I'm not sure.. She certainly seems like an alien. A scary sight indeed. I don't even recognize her. She is flat cold to me, when I cry, when I don't. I feel like she is just this shell of the woman I married. She knows it hurts me when she goes out to dinner with her work friends knowing the OM is around, and she is open (if I ask) about telling me he is. I just don't understand how she could tell me they are "just friends" after this guy (drunk or not) has openly told me shes having an affair with him behind my back. and then laughed about it. He completely disrespected me right in front of her.. and she still does it.

I don't know how or why she can hurt me like that.. It [censored] to see someone be so careless about my feelings.

I can tell you not too long ago she experienced a miscarriage when we were trying hard for a little girl. The fetus never got far enoug along to know the baby's sex but I know it took a toll on her. I also know that the OM is a single dad of 1 daughter. This may be coincidence, but as many of you know when you spend most of your time trying to piece together "why's" you think of everything possible.