Never posted before. Long story short (without our history), I'm trying to save my marriage (obviously I'm here lol). Wife and I separated in May. She stated she no longer wanted to be married on Aug 1st. She filed with attorney on 10/1 with a false separation date. Found out she has been talking to another guy (fake Jesus believer with "thy will be done" on his chest and a bible on his stomach; guess he forgot the 10th commandment??? or shes been lying to him from day 1 or maybe a little of both?) since June this past year. We are working through the divorce without lawyers and over the last 2 weeks, we have had 3 great discussions of emotions and history; mutually. No talks of R's but we agreed to cancel our lawyers and do this by ourselves. Those discussions are done. She has said this guy is just "a friend" and she is doing nothing wrong. Completely false in my eyes but I have no proof and I'm not spying on her to even have proof.
Question: I do not initiate text or phone calls unless it is about our 3 kids. Since I know she is still "friends" with him, when she comes over to get the kids and she ends up staying at the house for over an hour, do I allow her to continue to slowly open up to me (as we say pave the way home smoothly; doing this would allow her to see that I'm not controlling her and I have self control because she knows I know they talk) and just never mention the friend thing, or do I say, we have nothing to talk about if you are still having friendships with other men (as this may come across as controlling her to her)?
I don't have proof of anything, but the only thing consistent here is her inconsistency. I would love to hear SANDI'S thoughts on this!!!
