Separated- Wife in Emotional Affair

[Chris82]

Thanks for your reply. I'm new here so I don't really know what all the acronyms mean.. MLC? I know that our history of "fighting" often involved both us us fighting unfairly. From Chapter 1 my situation is dead on the same exact ordeal with the wife that put up the wall and no one could tear it down. She told me that the harsh things I would say built up and built up and eventually she just had enough.

I was just surprised because no matter how much we both would fight and say things we didn't mean, I had no idea she was so unhappy. Like I said, most of the time we had made up by lunch the day after. But now she informs me that she was miserable and it is devastating, because no matter what I always only wanted our happiness together, I guess I took advantage of her because I knew no matter how much we fought I could never leave her, even though we had both threatened it on several occasions.

This has all come as a huge shock to me. Had I know she was so miserable with me I would have done more to stop fighting with her so much.. I never would have chosen this.. I love her and I love my family with all my heart. I've tried to express that and everything I say is just shut down. Like someone has just slammed the door in my face and she won't have anything to do with it.