Hi MLeigh, my sitch is a bit different as H decided to file and so I haven't had to make that choice. I read a post by Zues in Newcomers recently about dating after marital break up. He mentioned the advice not to date until you have been D'd a year. I find that helpful for my sitch as it looks as though our D may be finalised this spring - 2 years after we S.
I've resolved not to date during 2016....and then 2017 - well, we'll see. That feels about right for me. It would mean I have given 3 years post BD for there to be some sort of significant movement - and also some time post D for healing.
Of course, who knows how my sitch may turn out ultimately - but the above feels about right for me just now. In a way I'm glad my H chose to file as I didn't have to make that choice. But if you sit with things for a while, I'm sure you'll know what feels right when the time is right.
ps: are you learning some cool moves on your scooter?? That's what all the cool kids do
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
