Separated- Wife in Emotional Affair

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Chris,

It's good you're here. Almost all of us beg and plead. And things sometimes get better, and then get worse again.

You might think that Sandi's rules are suggestions. I would encourage you to think of them as your new rules that you live by, and read them every morning.

Wayward Wives do not think logically. You do.
I fought with my wife a lot in our marriage - nothing severe, but it's now her axe she grinds when we talk... nothing was ever good. The book on your marriage has been rewritten in front of you, I know.

She will say hurtful things to you, if you continue to discuss the marriage and anything resembling the R. Talk in pithy statements, fake happiness if you need to, especially for the boys.

Could it be a MLC? Is she dealing with past hurt? Did you do something that forced her to re-asses her life?

Deep breaths. Take every day as ONE day. And if you have to bite your lip clear off, DO IT. Your heart is asking WHY WHY WHY WHY WHY, but it's an answer that your wife does not have, nor will she for a while.

I don't want a divorce in my sitch, either... it might happen. After 2 months, I have begun to accept that the D will happen, and that I must now start preparing for the worst, and hope for the best.

What are you doing with the boys? Any fun activities? Are they getting time with their grandparents, or aunts/uncles? Normalcy for them is great... making things as normal as possible.