Yes, Julie, exactly my thoughts. But how to create that desire when the spouse that is holding out keeps throwing out new issues and harbors what appears to be limitless anger. "I am angry that you don't do A and B." So I do A and B, then "I am angry that you did C and D." And on, and on, and on for an entire year. Plus the "old stuff" keeps getting revisited, "Yes you changed A and B but 10 years ago you did A and B." It just seems so hopeless. So is it a matter of time, of him waiting to "trust" that the changes are lasting?
But in the meantime, my emotional and physical needs are being ignored. I can't live like this forever. I know, not time yet, be more patient. I am, I will. But I am not a robot either.
