I can't tell him any of that. Over & over & over he has gotten angry and accused me of trying to be his pastor (which I am NOT) when I bring up his own planks. But that's just it - he's poking the planks in my eye and I'm poking the planks in his. I recognize it, apologize for it, "own" it, but yet I continue to DO it. UGH. It makes me just a hypocrit. Which again, I can freely agree that it valid. He will not accept any responsibility nor any need for he himself to do ANYTHING. He keeps claiming that he's the one who has been SOOO loving, for the 12 years, on and on. I think deep down he knows that's BS but he still clings to his only shred of righteousness (self-righteousness), rather than giving it up to God alone. Yes, he should know better. He preaches on it all the time. Physicians make the worst patients, you know?
Me: 42, H: 38 Married: 12 years (second M for me) 14D, 9D 2015 EA (PA??), porn addict, *pastor/counselor* MLC
At a counselor, he said he wanted the marriage but not to work on himself w/a IC. Piecing?
