Here I am still

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Holding it against you is not showing Christ's love.

You holding it against him isn't showing Christ's love.

What did Jesus say to the Samaritan woman at the well?
He had authority to do so, and the woman asked who he was, and recognized his authority.
Your husband does not recognize you as an equal partner.

My suggestion to see someone to talk about the sitch still is a suggestion. And I think he has deteriorated to a point that someone else will probably need to get involved for his healing... but you need to focus on yourself right now.