Mutatio, I think you can drop the rope at the same time as cutting your codependency. Its all really the same thing. Its just a matter of finding the right way to let go that works for you. Maybe its Mona's exercise of "choosing not to love her for an hour", maybe its re-reading the book, whatever it is, it is a process and I don't think you need to wait on achieving some level of emotional health before doing it, just do it. For me I think it was a series of disturbing encounters with H that just really opened my eyes to the fact that "I can NOT go there with him." I am sure I am still codependent but dropping the rope is helping with that too. Its all part of the same thing. And I am sure I will have some relapses, already did on Christmas. Next time I am having a rough day emotionally I will try Mona's exercise.
