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[beckyb]

Thank you Betsey! That is exactly what I needed to hear. H has stopped communicating so I'm guessing he got my settlement proposal. I offered to discuss with him but he has not responded. Oh well.

On Monday there is a conference with the attorneys and the judge. He'll have to have some kind of response by then.

My proposal is fair and reflects mostly what he and I talked about this summer. I think he is feeling less guilty now so that is not good for me. I make significantly more money than H and he has been way over spending so I'm pretty sure he's feeling desperate.

When this all started my attorney got the case moved to a female judge who had a bad divorce and doesn't like adulterers. Plus my H hired a L from another county, which was stupid. I don't want to go to court but if it ends up there I thing I'm in a good place.

I'm mad as heck that he started this whole thing and I'm the one having to finish it.

Renting here is not great either. I can't see myself living in an apartment and the rent for a decent house is as much as a mortgage. I do have the option to move in with my mom (ugh) until I find the right situation. I'll have to wait and see what happens with the sale of our house. I'm going to get approved for a loan and start looking just in case. My goal is to put the house on the market 2/15.

Personal goals including defining what I want my future to look like, working with my IC on some of my issues, losing 2 pounds and exercising regularly, learning to play piano and learning to shoot a gun.