WAW - Detaching is the Hardest Thing

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Anc - thanks for looking in - I know don't believe what they say etc, but it is hard now she has taken off her wedding ring, and put away two wedding photos of just us two.

She has never taken the photos down before and never taken both rings off, even in 2012.

My focus is on me and the kids. Through GAL and love. Detaching is easier if I think that I have been sacked and think of her as no more than a friend.

I am doing the LRT, and detaching.

A huge 180 would be to accept a separation, agree and plan it with her. Last time in 2012 our switch changed after I agreed to separation and looking at apartments. She pulled back from the brink.

This time round I think I am a well rounded individual who has done little wrong but try to love my wife as best as I can.

I need to regain the trust through my actions ( no snooping) and let time heal her a little while showing she would be a fool to leave me.

I will not enable her anymore as a glorified babysitter, or a glorified house husband. I will do what is right for me and the kids.

If I believe that there is no OM, I can detach more easily. I have no smoking gun or any real tangible evidence of OM. When she texted and received a phonecall all last night I just kept telling myself to ignore it, detach, it's not about her.

Tonight my gal is postponed until Thursday, so I will go to kids kickboxing class, go for a short bike ride, weather permitting, and research some projects for the home. I'm trying to set up the kids playroom with Xbox and TV. They are using there bday and Xmas to buy the stuff - it's what the kids want.

Also I intend to read with S8 before bed, a nice 180 for me