MB gave you some really great advice for not being an "expert". GAL right now. It will take your focus off what is happening with the M. It will save your sanity. It will keep you from pursuing her. The absolute worst thing you can do is chase after her. The best thing is to pull back and start doing your own thing. It sounds all kinds of messed up, right? It is the one thing that works best.
No relationship talks until after you've read DR, okay? You really need to read the book. I'm so glad you got here early! We may be able to help you not make mistakes so many of us have already made.