Wife and I have been married 5 years. 4 kids. 2 with her both boys 2 and 3 and I have 2 from another woman. She's raised these kids as hers for the last 6 years. Found out she was having an affair with coworker and immediately asked her to leave. She rented a house 5 days later and is been there for a month. We talked about a week after she moved in for 2 hours. She couldn't say if our relationship was over for sure. Fast forward to last Saturday. I have been doing limited contact with her. She picks the younger boys up everyday then brings them home before work at 5. I haven't been pursuing or really talking about us.
So I ask her to go out to have coffee last Saturday and ask her where we are at. She said she misses us and is homesick but doesn't want to come back if she not 100%. Still involved with om but I think that is wearing off and she's seeing that it's not all that. Feels like she's into deep with the house but seems to be softening.
So do I keep going dark or just keep communicating with her with no more R talk till she's ready. She is out for n her own right now paying all the bills at her new house and without any other family. Om is staying at her place a few nitghts a week and he is also married but his spouse is divorcing him and he's having second thoughts. From talking to the obs they are not going to like eachother once they get to know one another and I already see signs that it's floundering. Ordered DR but not here yet
