Perhaps your husband wants to be able to make the choices to give you affection and gifts, but without being told. When you are told to do something it doesn't feel natural. It ends up feeling forced and the other person can end up feeling controlled. Maybe when he does something you like just act super happy and reinforce it with something you know he will love. Like a nice dinner, or I don't want to get too graphic. Be patient with it. View it as an experiment so you don't lose patience easily.
But to listen to someone asking for things gets annoying and ends up sounding like nagging and complaining. It does make you look needy as well. If they do it great, but if not you are confident and secure enough to not need It. .
I realized this about myself. A poster,( zues I think this was you !) pointed out to me that I was a bit like a bulldozer with husband and I had to laugh because he was right. I certainly have no problems communicating what I wanted and expected. But i wasn't getting it because I wasnt being smart about it. Being smart will make it so you both win.
I hope I get the chance to implement this myself.
Me: 42 H: 43 Twins age 5 Physically Separated 7/2015
