Elly, I was talking to IC today and I said how I wrote here "my wife can crush me with a word or make my heart sing with another" and she said that is clearly codependency. I did read that book but I think I will start to read it again tonight. IC recommended another book, I'll post the title later. Thanks for the advice Elly, I must give her the space she needs now and learn to walk away to do it.
Thanks Fo, I have sensed a change in you writing. I am happy for you. Your change seem to have brought peace to your house and yourself. You deserve it. I think I can't drop the rope because I am still codependent. I must focus on overcoming it. Then I think the other pieces will fall into place.
Hi Gmum, your are right about the WAS needing to do serious work on themselves. I would not be happy with my wife and her old heavy baggage. She'll need new baggage with swivel wheels because I'm done carry her baggage for her.
