Stepping back from the situation I realize she has no respect for me. I addressed that tonight and told her I do want to hear about you day and what your doing that is fun. At the same time I do not want to hear about the things that involve the OM. It's disrespectful to me that you talk about it so openly. Surprisingly she didn't get openly mad at me and said she understood. What she is doing right now does not fit into my values and beliefs nor those of her parents and upbringing. The reason I do want her back is since the day I saw her i have always felt that she is my forever person. She was my best friend and the woman I love more than anyone. She still comes to me with issues like her mother not agreeing with the situation and refusing to talk to her. So I listen and give advice if asked. Do I go dark? I am at a total loss as to how to proceed with the interactions with her. She definitely notices if I go cold. And distance between us was part of the issue before. My therapist asked me the same question. Why do you want to reconcile with someone who having a EA or otherwise and right now because I still love her very much and my beliefs and values are that a family should be together. That is what I want
The person that you will spend the most time with in your life is yourself, so make yourself as interesting as possible.
