Feeling Numb

[mutatio]

I am so sorry your son had to experience this Elly. Hold him and hug him often. He will remember those hugs more then any words. Peace Elly

[Elly4]

Thanks, Mutatio. I so wish that I could keep this pain from him, but as I can't, I truly hope that my hugs are remembered.

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[Cherry]

They will be, and your constant love will be. And the fact that you tried your best to shield him before he even knew. You kept life ticking over regardless of your feelings- to protect him. And when he's old enough to understand that, he will have even more love and respect for you.

Sending hugs your way too

[Elly4]

Awww, Cherry. Now you have me welling up. Thank you for that kind remark. I truly hope so.

He did not want to be with dad tonight, but cuddled with me for a long time. Then he finally went to play with dad.

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[Cherry]

thats ok, it's the truth. It takes a lot of strength to be the one getting hurt and this dropped on, but still managing to hold it together and put on a brave face for our children, a lot of strength.

Children are very smart, and they pick up on a lot. Plus when they hurt or they want comfort, mommas are always the answer, they know they can go to you to give them that love and hold them and make the pain go away. Those arms give previous little hugs

[Ancaire]

I've been looking through the MLC threads this morning, looking for inspiration and guidance. I found this little gem, and I'm going around sharing it with everyone I think it may be helpful to. Sometimes everything just gets to be too much, and I forget where I'm supposed to be focusing. It really helped me redefine where I want to go, and how I'm going to get there. I hope it helps you a bit, too.

Consider the DB basic principals....

1) Healthy boundaries.
2) Better communication
3) GAL
4) "act as if"
5) Change how you look at things
6) Keep a positive outlook
7) Personal growth
8) Learning more about you so that you can be all that you can be.
9) Learning to avoid "cheese less tunnels"
10) Love and respect

These principals can be used in all facets of ones life. When used properly....they truly can change you from the INSIDE OUT.

[Elly4]

Ancaire, thank you for this. It's a good reminder of my journey. I've been on it for so long, and yet in some ways, it feels like it's about to start this coming Saturday.

Thanks again!

[mutatio]

What is the significance of your Saturday reference?

[Elly4]

Mu, my H is leaving this Saturday.

[mutatio]

Elly, I am so sorry to read that. How difficult a day will it be for you? Do you have any friends that can support you nearby? Please post that day and feel our support.