Mutatio, I'm catching up on your sitch and haven't read it all yet. I've been in limbo for 15 months and have been where you are now. I totally agree with Roiste. You need to focus on you. If you feel like you can't be in the room with her because you aren't able to "act as if", then go somewhere else in the house. I still do that often.

Have you read, "Co-Dependent No More"?

***hugs***

E

M 46 / H 43
T 24/M 18
S 4
11/6/2014 ILYBNILWY
1/16/2015 Living in separate bedroom
1/8/2016 H moved out