WW, My Addiction, Patience is HARD

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Something that I missed in all of this - my wife had a thyroidectomy early spring.

I passed on telling you all this, and now, after doing a little homework, might see something that would fit what is happening to my wife.

I can't change her, and I'm pretty much headed for the D, but some of me feels better knowing this might be medically related.

My wife had/has Grave's disease - autoimmune, made her thyroid produce WAY too much thyroid hormone, so it had to come out - the complete thyroidectomy happened in spring. She went hyper-thyridic, then now takes Synthroid and is hypo-thridic, (sorry, spelling is hard!)

Many accounts online show personality disorders after surgery, but since doc's look at T3/T4 levels, and if they're fine, they say 'good to go!'. Some women (Graves affects mostly women) report bad cases or anxiety, paranoia, and personality shifts - depression-related feelings.

Could my wife be affected by hormones that are no longer circulating in her body?

I know one person I work with had a wife go almost insane from pre-menopausal symptoms, to the point she was running out into the street, with the cops in tow, screaming that terrorists were going to get her family. She has since had her blood checked, they figured out the cause, and is now medicated, and doing well.

I really hate to make an excuse for my wife, but what IF this is really a matter of her levels?

I know she gets checked on T3/T4 about every 3 months, but that's it. My wife has been on SSRI's for years - so a history of anxiety and depression in her family.

This does make me feel better - that it might not really be her talking, but a condition that made her go buh-bye for the last 6 months.

I did send her links - she's so far gone after this morning, that I doubt she'll read them, but at least I put it out there for here to read.

I really am done with talking to her - I need to really detach now, no conversations, and have her figure things out herself. Waiting to get served this week will make me a little anxious, but I can't stop it from happening, so I must look to what I can control.

Mowgli, does you wife still have meds that she takes for a depression or other condition? Did it play a role in her waywardness?

Man, why didn't I put this into the mix 2 months ago? I guess my head was spinning too fast to think logically.