Thank you judy, i appreciate you openness beyond words. I know it is such a delicate topic and it is something that ive found most will not discuss, so thank you.
I have been reading /discussing with many in my shoes on a differt sort of support sight and rhe deprh of the pain from the victims as well as thier spouses is so rediculously deep. Most marriage will not survivw in any real capacity IF therapy is not a commitment for the victim and eventually the spouse too...different than mc. My wife has not seen an ic therapist in years and not for that.
I have nearly begged her to, but she will not. I know there are any number of reasons why not so there is just one more unknown.
As for you, you have reached a point ALREADY that so many refuse to even fathom, and that is some recognition thst there is a connection between CSA and adult relationships. You are light years ahead in the self care aspects and the desire to dig ur ass out of that hole and climb that mountain...bad heart and all.
