On a different note, just watched the season premiere of Downton Abbey and one of the main characters mentioned she would rather be alone than with the wrong man. I think that's my new mantra. As long as my H doesn't want me, he is the wrong man.
Now if only I wasn't homeless in a few weeks I might actually feel fine. Yikes!
Hi Gmum, your mantra is good although I not ready to think like that. I saw you post on Fo's thread on apple cider vinegar. Let me tell you what I read and was doing for 6 months. I read that Green tea with a coffee scoop of apple cider vinegar and a teaspoon of honey was an appetite suppressant. The green tea is caffinated to increase your metabolism, the apple cider vinegar changes the ph in your stomach and the honey is a sugar fuel. A google of how it works would give you a better explanation then I provided. I started doing it last spring when I got home from work to stop snacking. It worked but it could be psychosomatic.
What are your experiences with apple cider vinegar?
I've had great success with it when my D got sick and barfed all over me for a few days. I was fine. First time she got GI I ended up throwing up a few times too.
I prefer to use natural methods over Rx whenever possible. If it worked for you great. I've heard ACV is great for cutting sugar habits.
Stay at home parents get divorced all the time. The court is there to protect them. If he is making you homeless, you need an attorney to get temporary orders.
You feel powerless because you have no money -- but all funds are considered marital funds at the moment. He can't simply cut you off.
You have 10 posts and told her to get legal counsel 10 times.
I can only say that getting legal counsel is NOT against DB and just because you see a lawyer does not mean you will get divorced.
Detaching and Letting Go sometimes involves a lawyer. and sometimes you have to get divorced to save your marriage, 10% of divorces end up remarrying their spouses. MWD does have a section on this board about divorced but not done, why do you think that is?
On a different note, just watched the season premiere of Downton Abbey and one of the main characters mentioned she would rather be alone than with the wrong man. I think that's my new mantra. As long as my H doesn't want me, he is the wrong man.
Now if only I wasn't homeless in a few weeks I might actually feel fine. Yikes!
This mantra sounds good...now to get ourselves to believe it!
He's not making me homeless. But we haven't renewed the lease on our current place as it's too expensive considering he will need a place to stay too. I just reached out to a few brokers.
He just sent me the name of a mediator our therapist has recommended. She has good reviews, but I just asked around on another forum I belong to. I promise I'm not signing anything until it has been reviewed by someone with a legal degree.
You're right, our situation is more complicated because of the international aspect. That's why I have such a hard time understanding how he can do this. But it also helps me to detach. Frankly, at this point I can't wait to get as far away as possible.
Inpain, I have no problem believing it at the moment.
GMum I have just read your current thread it was interesting what you said about the main character in Downton abbey saying would rather be alone than with the wrong man ...my W is a downton fan and she posted something like this arround Bomb date on her facebook page
My thoughts are with you
huggs
Ghost
Me:48 W 41 M:18 T:26 2 D 18 & 4 2 S 17 & 13 Bomb: 20/7/2015 in house separation D filed 06/17 Separate houses 10/17 D Final 29/12//17.
