OMG, I can't believe your wife snooped on you and read through your journal. I'm sure you must feel like a hostage in your own home and that your wife better move out after such an egregious violation of your privacy. How dare she read your journal. You must feel so angry about that.
See how ludicrous the above sounds? Your wife isn't truly upset about your snooping because she KNOWS she's a liar and it's simply distressing and tiring for her to keep up the facade in the face of your now discovered more thorough snooping. This is her opportunity to blame you and try to convince you it's your fault and grab the high ground before you truly catch her (even if you do catch her now - she'll justify it saying your marriage has been over for awhile and you've been "in-house separated" long before she started dating).
If she's offended about your snooping then she should move out - NOT YOU. You've each snooped so your snooping isn't the "straw that broke the camel's back" anymore than her snooping is. If you don't mind be "a prisoner in your own home" than neither should she - unless she's got something to hide?
Her upset on her birthday was a smoke screen to cover for her behavior PRIOR to her cab ride home when she was certainly with her OM.
There is no such thing as an "amicable divorce". There are certainly unhealthy situations where betrayed spouses suck it up and ACT all nice and happy with their ex-spouses for the presumed benefit of the children but that's just acting. There is nothing truly "amicable" about it.
Amicable means =(of relations between people) having a spirit of friendliness; without serious disagreement or rancor.
Do you really believe Your wife's behavior the last few years towards you followed up by a divorce is really going to bring out the genuine "friendliness" in you? Do you really think you'll be able to have a relationship with her "without serious disagreement" as the inevitable consequences of divorce effect your children? This is the delusions of a wayward wife.
Your wife should be told the truth. If she divorces you - you'll never speak to her again about anything other than the children. You won't be friends. It won't be amicable - EVER (because there is no such thing) and it'll be her fault. You'll move on and be happy eventually. Her - not so much. Even if you wanted to, once you remarry it'll be rude and inappropriate to your new wife for you to have any to do with her. If she ends your relationship - she's choosing to really end it. This "amicable" idea she has is delusional.
The internet is 90% complaining and entitlement and I hate it because I deserve better!
